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Emotional Intelligence

Being the master of yourself

Have you ever admired people who usually succeed in most things they do? These people are charismatic, caring and always ready to help; they seem to know what and how to say in every situation. Were they born like this? What’s their secret?

The answer is emotional intelligence (EI), and some people are more disposed to it than others, but, fortunately, this skill can be acquired and developed.

Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognize, understand and manage our emotions, and to influence the emotions of other people. Individuals with a high degree of EI are aware of emotions that drive their behavior and impact others, especially being under pressure.

They don’t panic in stressful situations; on the contrary, they calmly find or help others find a solution, and overcome difficulties much more easily than people who are ruled by their feelings.

IQ vs EI

Let’s talk about professional fields. Don’t we think that people with higher IQs are the most valuable workers? Actually, it’s not true. There is no doubt that such people are smart, talented or even genius, but they are usually hard to work with, as they tend to do everything by themselves or in the manner they are used to.

It is EI that is even more important for employers than IQ. Daniel Goleman, a psychologist, author, and science journalist, wrote in his book Emotional Intelligence, “Many people with IQs of 160 work for people with IQs of 100 if the former have poor intrapersonal intelligence and the latter have a high one.” Are you surprised? Your IQ is a good thing, but there are much more critical skills that can be developed and improved.

Today many organizations are changing their hiring processes so as to choose candidates relying on their EI levels. Such approach shows significant results and gains an advantage over old hiring systems. So what a conclusion can we draw? It’s time to become emotionally intelligent!

Acquiring personal and social skills

“If your emotional abilities aren't in hand, if you don't have self-awareness, if you are not able to manage your distressing emotions, if you can't have empathy and have effective relationships,” said Daniel Goleman, “then no matter how smart you are, you are not going to get very far.” It’s too right!

To become armed with such powerful weapon as EI we have to develop personal and social skills. Personal skills help to manage ourselves, and they consist of other essential skills and their components, such as self-awareness, self-regulation, and motivation.

Self-aware people keep their emotions and impulses under control; they realize their strengths and weaknesses; they think before they act; they have the ability to say no; they are motivated, and they are challenge lovers.

Acquiring social skills help us handle relationships with other people. People with good social skills are true team players; they successfully manage conflicts, build and maintain relationships, and are charismatic leaders.

There is one more critical component of emotional intelligence - it is empathy. Empathy is the ability to understand the needs, wants and viewpoints of the people around you, both at home and at work.

Empathetic people avoid stereotypes and do not judge others, or their actions, too quickly, as they put themselves in other people’s places to look at a problem from their perspectives. An emotionally intelligent person is also open to newness, changes, and challenges in every field of their life.

Make friends with yourself

So as you can see, we can find only pros and no cons in being emotionally intelligent. Of course, it’s not very easy to become EI person, but there is everything about you – your emotions and your feelings. Who else can control them better than you?

And once you become a self-aware person, you’ll be able to understand how other people feel, to value them, listen to their needs and wants, which will help manage your relationships with them more effectively.

Y Skills Institute is ready to train everyone to navigate through this exciting flow of emotions by making this trip not in a lifeboat but on a comfortable yacht, calling at a number of professional and personal ports.